The Pain Of Those Suffering In Father-Absent Homes

Wednesday evening at our inmate service in the chapel, an older man shared that he had recently received a newsletter from his hometown. When he opened it up on the inside was a graduation picture of his 16 year old daughter. He shared that it had been 15 years since he had last seen and spoken to her. This proud daddy with tears in his eyes shared how much he loved her and with the help of a friend had penned a song. He picked up the guitar and begun to sing these words…

I saw your picture in the paper with that sweet angelic smile
It made so many memories go flooding through my mind
If I could just turn back the time and do it all again
I wouldn’t make the same mistakes that I made back then.

I know you often wondered why it all turned out this way
And if I had the chance I still don’t know what I could even say
But there’s just one question that burns in my heart still, is can you forgive.

I know just saying I’m sorry doesn’t take your pain away
Nor does it change how I walked out on that lonely April day
I can’t even imagine all the heartache you have felt
What I wouldn’t give if I could just take it on myself.

I’d gladly take every ounce of pain that I know you must feel
But sometimes there are wounds so deep that only God can heal
But there’s just one question that burns in my heart still, is can you forgive.

I know Jesus forgives me for all my sin
But I know that don’t take away the things I did
I’m not asking you to promise that you can love me still
But one thing I need to know, is can you forgive.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America, one out of three, live in biological father-absent homes. Many times I think we tend to forget the hurt these children must feel as their fathers are stripped away from their homes. Statistics say that children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor. Approximately forty-six percent of jail inmates had a previously incarcerated family member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or jail. Children living in father-absent homes are twice as likely to repeat a grade in school. A study of 1,977 children age 3 and older living with a residential father or father figure found that children living with married biological parents had significantly fewer externalizing and internalizing behavioral problems. The U.S. currently has the World’s highest incarceration rate, 500 prisoners per 100000 residents, or about 1.6 million … Men make up 90 percent of the prison and local jail population.
Let’s pray for the children of those incarcerated!!

2 thoughts on “The Pain Of Those Suffering In Father-Absent Homes

  1. God is the father of the fatherless and when my mother and my father abandon me still God does not. To your above statistics should be added the fathers who are technically home but spend no time with their children. I once read a statistic that the average father at home spends less than 4 min. a day in face to face interaction with their children. The last book of the old Testament says ” and he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts of the children to the fathers – lest God come and strike the earth with a curse. Thanks for your important reminder.

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