I’ve always thought that one of the most important core values that I have is to be known. To be known, for me, means that I can show the good, the bad, and the ugly about myself. I feel close to someone when I can live vulnerably in front of them and know I am loved for who I am, no matter what. Being known is a very safe place. I have many friends, I have many acquaintances, but only a very small group of them really know me.
This deep need to be known comes from my Heavenly Father. Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Jeremiah is telling us that the Lord Himself knew him before he was ever born. We hear David cry out in Psalms 139:23, “Search me oh God, and know my heart.” There is a call from within us to be known by God and for us to know Him. These same desires fall to our everyday relationships as well.
I was talking to a man in his 30’s one day and as we talked about his dad he said, “My dad always wants to know how much money I make or about the latest thing that I’ve purchased. It seems like he cares more about what car I drive than who I really am.” This man, like most of us, wants to be known intimately. Intimacy often includes sharing how we feel, how we think, and what we need.
In today’s world of social media it’s possible to create an artificial world where you can share things about yourself to thousands of people you call “friends”. I enjoy social media. For me it’s fun and mostly stays pretty light hearted and upbeat. It’s a good way to find out what is going on all over this planet. It’s enjoyable and mostly a nice use of the limited time I spend using it. The concern I’ve always had about social media is that it can put you in a bubble that you created. For example, I can friend or de-friend anyone at anytime. I’ve read the spouting off of several VERY strong opinions, quite meanly sometimes, each without the benefit of looking anyone in the eye when sharing such hurtful comments. These people should be removed from your list and news feed. My point in bringing up social media is that you could wrongly feel as though because you have lots of friends, or likes, or posts that you are truly known.
What it takes to really know somebody and be known is time. Spending time with that person, listening, and sharing your heart with him/her. Do you know what that person thinks and feels and needs? Does that person know what you need? It can be scary at first, but deep relationships are a great investment and have incredible returns in the end. Ask God to search you and know you and you do the same with Him and all your other relationships. You won’t be disappointed.
This post was written by Sheri Silk on December 17, 2014 and originally appeared on new.jesusculture.com